Definition of Domestic Abuse
The cross-government definition of domestic violence and abuse is:
Any incident or pattern of incidents of controlling, coercive, threatening behaviour, violence or abuse between those aged 16 or over who are, or have been, intimate partners or family members regardless of gender or sexuality. The abuse can encompass, but is not limited to:
Controlling behaviour is a range of acts designed to make a person subordinate and/or dependent by isolating them from sources of support, exploiting their resources and capacities for personal gain, depriving them of the means needed for independence, resistance and escape and regulating their everyday behaviour.
Coercive behaviour is an act or a pattern of acts of assault, threats, humiliation and intimidation or other abuse that is used to harm, punish, or frighten their victim.
Safety planning is a way of helping you to protect yourself and your children. A personal safety plan is a tool to assist in identifying options and can help you plan in advance for the possibility of future violence and abuse. It also helps you to think about how you can increase your safety either within the relationship, or if you decide to leave.
There is no right or wrong way to develop a safety plan but it is important that it is easier to remember. If you have difficulty in remembering things, ask if your friends or family can keep a copy of the plan. Whether it is safe or not to write the plan down, it is still important to make and think about one.
Please see the advice of Women’s Aid for more information and support.
Supporting employees during COVID-19
The current restrictions in place due to Covid-19 mean that most employees are not seeing staff face-to-face, therefore it may be more difficult to spot some of the usual signs of domestic abuse.
One thing managers can do is check in staff members regularly via phone or video call. Be aware that others could be listening – stick to general welfare questions and make a note of any concerns to avoid putting the employee at further risk.
If you are an employee, remember that your employer has a duty of care towards you. Don’t be afraid to confide in a trusted colleague if you are experiencing domestic abuse, if it is safe to do so.
Business in the Community and PHE has published a domestic abuse toolkit providing guidance on how employers can support those affected by it.
Humberside Police Non-emergency – 101
North East Lincolnshire Women’s Aid (supporting men and women) – 01472 575757
National Domestic Violence Helpline – 0808 2000 247
The Samaritans – Freephone 116 123 or Local 01472 353111
Police Domestic Violence Officer (9am – 5pm) – 01472 721224 / 721227
Housing advice – 01472 326296 option 1
NELC Children’s Integrated Front Door – 01472 326292 option 2
Victim Support – 01472 250251 or 356549
Citizens Advice Bureau – 0344 411 1444
National Centre for Domestic Violence – 0800 970 2070
Respect – 08088024040
Men’s Advice Line – 0808 801 0327